CREATRIX RISING: UNLOCKING THE POWER OF MIDLIFE WOMEN
Ever since Eve was banned from the garden, women have endured the oft times painful and inaccurate definitions foisted upon them by the patriarchy. Maid, Mother, Crone, representing the three stages assigned to a woman’s life cycle, have been the limiting categories of both ancient and modern (neo-pagan) mythology. For midlife women, those past childbearing age, one label in particular rankles: Crone. The word conjures a wizened hag, useless for the most part, marginalized by appearance and ability. Useless. Used up.
None of us has ever truly fit the old Crone image, an identity better assigned to the shadows as an aspect of femininity that is dark and mysterious, but also powerful and wise. For today’s midlife women, a new archetype emerges, a newly birthed creative spirit, a powerful more fitting than Crone. Her qualities are called the Creatrix.
What’s it like to live from such wholeness, such creative power? In Creatrix Rising: Unlocking the Power of Mid-life Women, Stephanie Raffelock lays out through personal stories and essays the highlights of the past fifty years in which women went from quiet strength to a resounding voice. She invites us along her own transformational journey by providing probing questions for reflection, so we can flesh out and bring to life this new archetype within ourselves.
Written in the spirit of Women Who Run With the Wolves, Creatrix Rising gives context in which to place the great, creative surge that women of later years are experiencing personally and collectively. The Crone is replaced by the new archetype of Creatrix, now morphed from the ugly old witch of the forest into the shining inner guide of Creatrices everywhere.
If what the Dalai Lama has predicted proves true, that women will save the world, then for certain, the Creatrix will be out front, leading the pack.
PUBLISH DATE AUGUST 24, 2021
FROM C.S. HOLMES FOR INDIE READER:
CREATRIX RISING: Unlocking the Power of Midlife Women by Stephanie Raffelock provides much invitation as well as inspiration for women towards embracing their power, wisdom, and love toward shaping this world into a better one for all.
There are so many wonderful facets to CREATRIX RISING: Unlocking the Power of Midlife Women by Stephanie Raffelock as it takes a closer look at women’s reality in relation to age, accomplishment, sisterhood connection, language, healing and even current events. Helping to deflate the much-perpetuated Newsweek myth that women over 35 years of age are more likely to be shot by a terrorist than marry (which was based on a faulty study and eventually recalled), by her 50s the author managed to debunk such fearful foolishness and she posits that perhaps the midlife stage of being a “Creatrix” who is coming into her full power is a stage that’s been left out of the traditional three-point paradigm of Maiden-Mother-Crone. After all, regardless of how feminists endeavored to reclaim the word, originally the term “…crone entered the lexicon six hundred year ago, around 1390…” and was meant to define a disagreeable old woman often portrayed as–not just elderly–but also ugly and desexualized. How many mothers in their 20s, 30s, or 40s plan on becoming disagreeable and decrepit just as soon as the kids move towards having lives of their own? (Or for that matter, via the above limited female archetypes, are women who don’t become mothers supposedly skipping directly from Maiden to Crone?)
Raffelock contends that the stage of becoming the kind of seasoned powerhouse that she’s named a “Creatrix” is what she and so many mature women are experiencing; a time when the birth of much goodness beyond having children is possible. This stage is not necessarily always easy or smooth, however. Most touching are the personal tales Raffelock shares from her life–for instance how wonderfully, generously sharing and caring a group of girlfriends she was able to spontaneously be part of at one time as all of them strived to secure careers, and how heartbreaking it was to try and recreate that type of collective camaraderie many years later in an organized way, only to have those efforts explode. Occurrences with workplace sexual harassment with non-disclosure settlements are explored, alongside eras of surviving drug-use and the process of becoming one’s own hero(ine). This is a supportive self-actualizing resource of the highest order and readers of any age are likely to palpably feel their spirits rise.
Prompts for reflection, journaling, and action-taking are amply provided in Stephanie Raffelock’s CREATRIX RISING: Unlocking the Power of Midlife Women, an eclectic, personable, encouraging, deep-pondering, and potentially life-changing ode to ladies coming into their own.
FROM EMMA MEGAN FOR READERS' FAVORITE:
Creatrix Rising: Unlocking the Power of Midlife Women by Stephanie Raffelock is a short, powerful read that shows through real inspirational stories about special women why we should view the aging process as an asset and not as something repulsive. From this book, you'll learn about an archetypal model created by a man supposed to represent the summation of a woman’s life: maiden/mother/crone. But because Stephanie Raffelock believes (like all women do) that crone doesn't define midlife women at all, she wrote this book to open our eyes and see how midlife women embrace and celebrate the creativity, maturity, and wisdom that only come with age. Stephanie eliminates the myth of insignificance around older women by introducing a new word that defines midlife women more accurately; the Creatrix.
Creatrix Rising by Stephanie Raffelock is a tribute to older women who emerged into the most creative phase of their lives with grace. This beautiful work deserves to be read by women of all ages because it shows that their potential to create, lead, inspire, and reinvent themselves to become whatever they want does not stop at fifty or sixty or any age. Stephanie did a great job of teaching midlife women to embrace the aging process. In this book, she presents the upside of menopause and encourages all women to live their lives on their own terms. Stephanie exposes her vulnerability and insecurities and talks about the darkest moments of her early life. As a result, Creatrix Rising is overall a great act of courage on the author's part. I highly recommend it because I agree that men can no longer define women.
FROM MARCI SHIMOFF, #1 NEW YORK TIMES BEST-SELLING AUTHOR OF HAPPY FOR NO REASON
AND NO REASON AND CHICKEN SOUP FOR THE WOMAN'S SOUL:
“The perfect topic at the perfect time, Stephanie Raffelock’s self-help memoir, Creatrix Rising, identifies a new archetype, the Creatrix, that transcends the old archetype of Crone. Her stories and insights about how far women have come is nothing short of inspirational. A must-read for any woman who wants to embrace the strength and creativity of midlife.”
FROM RICHARD BLANCO, #2013 PRESIDENTIAL INAUGURAL POET
AND AUTHOR OF HOW TO LOVE A COUNTRY:
“Poetic and philosophical, Creatrix Rising will inspire readers to claim the courage and confidence that already lives inside of them. An intimate story of transformation, of journeying through life on your own terms without apology.”
FROM GABBY REESE, VOLLEYBALL LEGEND, NIKE'S FIRST FEMALE SPOKESWOMAN,
AND NEW YORK TIMES BEST-SELLING AUTHOR:
“The new archetype Stephanie Raffelock assigns to midlife women underscores the assets and wisdom older women bring to our culture and to the greater good. Creatrix Rising is an affirmation and celebration of the feminine story taking place in leadership and creativity throughout our country.”
a new archetype
from quiet strength to a resounding voice.
A DELIGHTFUL LITTLE BOOK ON AGING
All around us older women flourish in industry, entertainment and politics. Do they know something that we don’t, or are they just, they’re trying to figure it out, too? So many of us feel in our hearts and minds that we are still twenty-something young women who can take on the world. But every day, we have to rise above the creaky joints and achy knees just to move through the world with a modicum of grace. Yet we do rise, because it’s a privilege to grow old, and every single day is a gift. This book is an invitation to celebrate whatever age you are with a sense of joy and purpose and a spirit of gratitude.
PUBLISH DATE APRIL 28, 2020
FROM KIRKUS REVIEWS:
This well-designed book presents these lessons as a series of thoughts and vignettes from the author’s life, moments that stand out and memories that have come to signify key aspects of aging for her. “Aging invites us to grow into a deeper beauty,” she writes, “it’s no longer the smile on our face as much as it is the expression in our heart.” Raffelock’s book will be a much-needed boost to readers of all ages.
FROM KELLY BROGAN MD, AUTHOR OF THE NYT BESTSELLER A MIND OF YOUR OWN:
“Where are the elders? The wise women, the crones, the guardians of truth here to gently, lovingly, and playfully guide us towards the fulfillment of our collective destiny? It turns out that they are right here, in our midst, and Stephanie Raffelock is showcasing the reclamation of aging as a moment of becoming, no longer a dreaded withering into insignificance. A Delightful Little Book on Aging lays down new and beautiful tracks for the journey into our richest, deepest, and wildest years.”
FROM FREDERIC LUSKIN, PH.D., CO-FOUNDER, THE STANFORD FORGIVENESS PROJECT:
“This little book by Stephanie Raffelock unfolds gently. Like aging, it is raw and funny and quirky. It is not 5 easy steps but real stories and wisdom. It is resilience in action, acknowledging losses and unwanted changes of aging with moxie, humor and grit.”
FROM JONNY BOWDEN, BOARD-CERTIFIED NUTRITIONIST & BEST-SELLING AUTHOR
OF LIVING LOW CARB & THE 150 HEALTHIEST FOODS ON EARTH:
“Deeply compassionate, eminently readable, and filled with timeless wisdom and unbridled joy. Stephanie Raffelock will be your favorite new discovery. You’re welcome.”
FROM ANDREA F. POLARD, AUTHOR OF A UNIFIED THEORY OF HAPPINESS:
“Filled with authentic stories and abundant insights, “A Delightful Little Book on Aging” is a heart-warming companion for anybody who wishes to age without sugar-coating the losses while continuing to live life with an open spirit. Stephanie Raffelock makes me look forward to my own golden years. Well done!”
FROM CARPE DIEM CHRONICLES:
“Aptly titled, A Delightful Little Book on Aging lays out a joyful, thoughtful, easily applicable approach to handling the advancing years with dignity, grace, and gratitude. Ms. Raffelock wrote with so much wisdom, authority, and charm, I found myself highlighting numerous passages that resonated with me. By the time I finished reading, nearly the entire inside of the book was covered in light green color (I chose a highlighter that matched the cover) .”
FROM KIRKUS REVIEWS:
"This well-designed book presents these lessons as a series of thoughts and vignettes from the author’s life, moments that stand out and memories that have come to signify key aspects of aging for her. The tone Raffelock takes throughout the work is resolutely optimistic and affirmative, despite the fact that she’s clear-eyed about the fact that one of the defining characteristics of age is loss: “Friendships end. Children move away. The role of work or career that once defined us is relegated to memory.” The resulting grief can manifest itself as melancholy, angst, or “unexplainable tears.” In quick, upbeat chapters, the author urges her peers to remain engaged and moving. She offers several tips for ways to do this: Mentor the young, make things like art or music, find new friends, investigate the latest technology, and—in a note sounded frequently in the book—remember to exercise regularly. She transforms many of her experiences into quippy slogans like “Life is too short to hate your thighs,” “Your weight is not a gauge of your worth, and neither is your bank balance,” and the essential theme of the whole volume: “Don’t freak out about getting old.” And all of these nuggets of wisdom are leavened with gentle humor (“Sagging has set into places that I didn’t know could sag”) and an all-embracing compassion. Aging invites us to grow into a deeper beauty, she writes, “it’s no longer the smile on our face as much as it is the expression in our heart.” Raffelock’s book will be a much-needed boost to readers of all ages. ... A helpful, uplifting work for readers handling the challenges of growing older."
FROM LIVING NOW BOOK AWARDS
Winner. Category: Mature Aging - Bronze
FROM AMERICAN BOOKFEST, 2020 BOOK AWARDS
Finalist. Category: Health and Aging
FROM HUMAN RELATIONS, INDIE BOOK AWARDS
Winner. Category: Aging - Gold