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WHAT IT MEANS TO AGE GRACEFULLY ...
When I was a young woman, I was caught by the expression, “You are what you eat.” I still believe that, and not just in terms of the...

stephanieraffelock
Apr 17, 20202 min read
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What It Means to Age Gracefully…
To age gracefully is to age with gratitude. I embrace, believe and experience this truth every day. Walking life in gratitude is not...

stephanieraffelock
Mar 24, 20203 min read
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What It Means to Age Gracefully…
One definition of the phrase aging gracefully means that we look younger than our years. But that’s a sorry and shallow definition, and...

stephanieraffelock
Mar 4, 20202 min read
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In the Age of Me, Me, Me, Me . . .
Writing is one thing. Marketing yourself to the world is another. On the one hand I don’t think that the desire for readers is an...

stephanieraffelock
Jan 11, 20202 min read
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A Birthday Selfie – Reflections on 66!
My friends are precious to me, some known for 40 and 50 years. They’re the source of birthday cards and calls, emails and birthday...

stephanieraffelock
Apr 1, 20182 min read
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The Writing Pep-Talk Rant -a-Rama!
This is a pep-talk sort of rant that is as much for me as it is for anyone. Be forewarned: I speak of some unsavory aspects of writing...

stephanieraffelock
Feb 27, 20184 min read
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Insecurity, Not Good Enough and Other Sucky Things Writers Do to Themselves
On the one hand, you have to be a little bit crazy to want to lock yourself into a room several hours each day to create worlds with the...

stephanieraffelock
Jun 5, 20172 min read
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A Life In Letters
A few days ago an old friend, Kitty, emailed me that she was cleaning out a file cabinet and had found several of my letters. She scanned...

stephanieraffelock
Apr 16, 20173 min read
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Inspire or Perspire, Thoughts From An Old Determined Rookie
My writing journey is pretty inspirational, at least to me. For the past four years, I have been doing what musicians call...

stephanieraffelock
Apr 2, 20173 min read
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Why Would You Even Want to Write a Book?
So why write a book at all? I’ve asked myself this question in the past year as I’ve slogged through the slow revision and polish process...

stephanieraffelock
Feb 18, 20173 min read
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What’s Your Word for 2017?
Even though one day is pretty much the same as another, and an arbitrary line between December 31st and January 1st doesn’t really mean...

stephanieraffelock
Jan 9, 20172 min read
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Holiday Wishes
I am hunkered down with tea and a laptop, moving forward on a manuscript that has had its hands around my throat for the past year and...

stephanieraffelock
Dec 24, 20161 min read
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The Why of What We Write
Recently I was given a list of Pixar’s 22 Rules of Storytelling. It’s a great list for anyone who writes fiction. Number #14 on the list...

stephanieraffelock
Oct 1, 20163 min read
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Technology and the Death of Introspection
For a while I still read at night. Schooled on the principle that one’s writing is a direct reflection of the quality of one’s reading, I...

stephanieraffelock
Feb 24, 20164 min read
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What The Morning Brings
I kept the teapot and the sugar and creamer, though I lost the lid to the pot during a move. I displayed them on a shelf. The rest of the...

stephanieraffelock
Feb 13, 20162 min read
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Investing In Your Writing
By the time you are working in the long-form format of the novel or the memoir, craft becomes the big thing. Story. Craft is what makes...

stephanieraffelock
Feb 11, 20162 min read
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Friended, Fanned and Porned (How To Make Facebook and Other Social Media Un-Fun)
And the problem didn’t start when I got porned on Facebook. A sexually violent picture appeared on my timeline. I was able to report it...

stephanieraffelock
Dec 30, 20153 min read
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Delights and Deliverance
Our group goes to the Minnenhauf. It means “house of love.” We meet Sister Felicitous, who tells us about the women from whose...

stephanieraffelock
Sep 20, 20152 min read
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And Then I Blogged Through Belgium
Thus far, my sixties have been the most exciting and fun part of my life. I never believed I would say that a few years ago. Sixty is,...

stephanieraffelock
Sep 9, 20154 min read
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We Are All Connected By Our Stories
Writers are a quirky lot. We spend a lot of time in our introverted creative bubbles, so when we do venture out, it’s kind of a party....

stephanieraffelock
Aug 10, 20153 min read
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